Kicking Bad Habits

A habit is an acquired behavior pattern regularly followed until it has become almost involuntary. In other words, if you practice something long enough, often enough and consistently then it becomes a habit, it takes care of us, controls us and we do it without thinking or questioning. We must also understand that we engage in the habits of do's and don'ts. In other words, if you do not exercise, then it is a habit - not exercising. Recently, the U.S. government applies the highest tax increase on cigarettes and always combined with other state charges and taxes, suddenly, I have been inundated with requests to help people to quit smoking. People often speak in terms of "breaking the habit," but the actual process does not simply involve the disruption of patterns, that is to replace the habit with something else that still meets the benefits originally offered by the first habit. For example, instead of inhaling toxic smoke, you inhale the fresh air now, a long walk or participate in other ways to relax, relieve stress or give you a short break from their daily routine. Almost all of our behavior is driven by the "pain and pleasure principle" - we move from the pain and move towards pleasure. Once the pain in any activity cancels your pleasure, we have to change our behavior or habits. In other words, to change a habit, we must first associate massive pain to the behavior and pleasure to partner with our custom consciously desired again. For example, each custom started because of an association with pleasure. Most people started smoking in adolescence due to peer pressure: they wanted to be accepted, loved and be part of the group (pleasure) and feared rejection, ridicule or humiliation (Pain.) Almost all addictions offer some benefit (even in spite of the obvious consequences painful.) Many people become addicted to behavior as a way to escape some pain (in view themselves, their past, their present life to be accepted or another reality) and as a way to experience pleasure (to numb the pain, or feeling of happiness in the moment.) Our habits and addictions are, but not limited to only those chemicals. Many of us engage in various destructive habits - overeating, overwork, obsession, ruminating, criticizing, judging, blaming, hiding, staying stuck in our comfort zone, avoiding people, lying, spreading rumors or bad news, holding resentment, living in the past, etc. The key to changing habits and replace them with new and empowering habits is to first identify the benefits of this habit or behavior. One benefit may be any result that is perceived as favorable, positive or good. For example, one of my customers was a "cutter" - she cut her arm. We have found that your subconscious motivation to cut was caused by his desire and need to feel in control of the pain that was inflicted on their pain (in contrast to the other people in your life that were causing it), and his desire into reality be able to feel the pain. So if you're ready, take a look at his life and habits. Ask yourself, "How does this habit help or benefit me?" For example, one of my clients approached me to help her "find love." In reviewing their habits, we have identified a pattern she always found something wrong with your partner, no matter who they were. So what was the benefit of finding something wrong with all potential suitors? Kept safe: she would reject the man before he could reject it. Therefore, he felt he could avoid the pain of rejection for criticizing the man, keep him away and therefore remain single. But after years of being alone, the balance begins to tip. My client wanted a family, she wanted someone who could love someone and also be there for her. Therefore, for us to help change their habit and replace it with a better habit, we had to: 1. Identify your Fear2. Establish where and when he took the habit of criticizing3. Help her feel good about yourself for lots of pain associated could keep the way it was (criticizing romantic partners) and, 4. Now the pleasure associated with the update and love again. This approach and strategy can be applied to any habit. However, if you have a heavy chemical addiction, then you will need a comprehensive program that also includes detoxification, constant advice and ongoing support. If you want support and assistance to end the cigarette habit and replace it with something much more beneficial, try my hypnosis CD. It works on a subconscious level to change what you associate with smoking, the change that focuses on the extraordinary benefits of being a non-smoking, while also helping to deeply relax and soothe away stress.

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Who am I? I am a Celebrity Life Coach, Human Behavior & Relationship Expert. I provide Quit Smoking Hypnosis programs and many other Hypnosis programs.